Jane Rinn
Betty and Cas (Sydney) were friends of my parents Sam and Marilyn Rinn in Penn Hills and the friendship continued when they moved to Murreysville . The parties at the Hunter Lane house were epic! Fancy dinners where Cas taught me to swirl and sip wine correctly (sometimes his home grown dandelion wine) and huge summer picnics that at least once included a “road rally” that had me hanging on for dear life (no seat belts then) as my Father sped down country roads trying to win the scavenger hunt (with a beer and cigarette firmly in place). Later Betty wrote a letter to the ghost in the house who was bothering them and miraculously the haunting stopped.
Their stories of travel, art, good friends, and good food and drink inspired me to travel and experience life with all the passion and humor that they did. I feel like I have accomplished that larger than life life that they emulated. Cas loved to tell the story of Betty’s friend when they lived in Italy who spoke no English and she no Italian but nonetheless they met daily and talked. Betty’s response “we understood each other!”. And without Betty’s stories I might still be at that rest stop in France trying to figure out the “hole in the floor toilet”! And who else would fly her Italian Poodlle Blu Blu to the states because they didn’t believe in spay and neuter in Italy! Our mutual love of animals always gave us something to talk about.
When my parents divorced and my Mother moved to New Hampshire I continued to see Betty when she visited her Mother and again when I returned to visit my Father in Pittsburgh. After I moved back To Pittsburgh I had Christmas dinner with them most years. The house and food were always gorgeous, the people intelligent and worldly, and the festivities included Betty’s various cats and guests dogs. Without the Caslake’s, those Christmas dinners could have been spent alone with my Father. I continued to visit on holidays until they moved full time to Lewes. But we always stayed in touch.
In 2002 I moved to New Jersey and was within driving distance to Lewes and started to visit again. Trips to see them on the Cape May ferry, Betty driving like a maniac and scaring bicyclists, and meeting the latest cat are all great memories. Not many people can make you belly laugh, discuss art, politics, Investments, and the “deplorable way
people dress now” into their 90s but Betty was one of a kind and sharp as a tack.
I spoke to Betty a week before she passed and made plans to visit bring my dog to meet her around her upcoming birthday. I am sorry that didn’t happen but am sure that she and Sydney are having a cocktail and verbally sparring now. And laughing-always laughing. And I’m sure that she is at peace.
I thank them both for a lifetime of friendship and surrogate parenthood. For all of the wonderful meals and conversations. To Betty for setting an example of a strong, smart, opinionated woman who knew herself completely and made no apologies for it. I love you both and appreciate your very positive influence on my life,
Jane Rinn